Wednesday, August 15, 2012
How to make a choice
We've all been in the position where we have to make a choice between two ways, or things. Some are difficult, because we can see the merits of both choices, or their disadvantages.
But... we can't have both. We must choose – how?
sites online that allow you a random choice!
But, this leaves your decision almost completely to chance.
You can still flip a coin and have a strong element of choice. All it requires is a quick, simple moment of real honesty with yourself.
Next time you're in this position and it comes down to two choices, do this.
Think carefully about what the two alternatives are, and choose heads for A and tails for B.
Flip the coin.
Unless it ends up on edge, which doesn't happen very often, there's your choice.
Wait. No, not quite. This is the good bit.
Because when it lands, you have to think honestly – the moment of truth – was I a tiny bit happy, or was I a little disappointed, when it came down that way?
If you were secretly happy, go with it. But....
If you felt a little pang, a tinge of disappointment, then you know.
You really wanted the other choice – or, at least, would have felt happier with it.
So go with that reaction. Forget the way the coin landed. It's now irrelevant. Your choice was there all along. Now you recognise it. Choose the one you were content with, and don't look back.
Choices are things we have to make. If they're irrevocable, then I offer you one thing that's guided my life, particularly when I had (and perhaps will have) to make life and death decisions about my future.
There are no right and wrong decisions. We will never know what the outcome would have been if we'd gone the other way. Maybe it seems we made a mistake, but who can say? All we've done is to think carefully about something, weighed it up on the basis of the best information we have, and chosen a path. With the benefit of hindsight, if it seems not to have been the best choice, and we're still alive, all we can do is learn from it.
That's what has guided my life decisions. Not the flip of the coin when flipping the coin, but making a sincere choice and accepting its consequences.
There's no rewind button in life. It goes only in one direction, and that's forward. That's actually what karma is, not that damn fool stuff about fate. All handing things over to 'fate' does is to weaken us, when we can and should accept responsibility when we have to make choices.